Month: July 2017

  • SUMMER RAINS

     

    When we’re granted life-sustaining rain from above, we are generally thankful. In Arizona, where I live, this is especially true. I often hear it said, or say myself, “What a beautiful day,” as the cloudy skies weep. A thunderstorm is an occasion for fascination and wonder. Rain in the summer is welcome if you aren’t at the beach or eating outdoors or you’re intent on staying dry. Gardens and crops flourish. The air is cleared and scented with the good earth. There’s reflection in the rivers, lakes and the fertile mind.

    Do you have any fond memories of incidents that occurred in the rain? Times of romance, perseverance, communing with the great outdoors? How about times of frustration due to rain that just wouldn’t stop or was damaging your property? Rain can be memorable, one way or the other.

    I recall once when our family was visiting my uncle and his family in the small town of Hamburg, New York. We were there just for the day and it turned out to be a rainy one. My cousins and I were taken to a movie theater to entertain us. Rain showers were coming down as we went into the dark theater and got involved in some film that had to do in part with a man and his horse crossing a desert in the American Southwest. They were on the verge of dying of thirst in a blistering hot, rocky dry river bed. The glare of the sun lit up the screen so bright we could practically feel the heat. At the height of this scene, waters from the storm outside suddenly broke open a door at the lower left of the theater. A wave that I recall to be about six feet high crashed into the open area in front of the stage. People down front were screaming and scrambling for higher ground. The movie was canceled and we were sent home. On the way back, we saw big piles of hail in neighborhood yards.

    Of course, I’m not particularly nostalgic about those kinds of incidents. I’m thinking about the warm, summer rain that makes us slow down and live in the peaceful moment or enhances a special event. What would Woodstock have been without the weekend of heavy rains? There has been so much music paying homage to the subject that we can all probably come up with related songs which mean something to us. Looking for some, I came across a list of 15 songs for a rainy summer day. They cover a wide span of time and musical styles, going back to 1952 with Singin’ in the Rain, through 1984’s Purple Rain, country music’s Raining on a Sunday from 2003, to 2011’s It Will Rain. For me, there is no song with more passion than the Temptations’ I Wish it Would Rain. And I can’t fail to mention Rain by the Beatles and Have You Ever Seen the Rain by Creedence Clearwater Revival.

    This is monsoon season in Arizona and much of the American Southwest. Unlike the majority of the Northern Hemisphere, summer here is not a time we relish. There are five months of extreme heat ( by which I mean average highs of 90-plus degrees) to navigate through. We stay inside, as the residents of the cold climates do during the winter months. The joke goes, “You know you’re from Arizona if you wear oven mitts when you drive.” June is my least favorite month of the year because the temperatures rise well above 100 each day for long stretches and there is no precipitation for any kind of relief. The dry heat isn’t as oppressive as in the humid regions, but an analogy I hear regularly is how it’s like being in an oven blast.

     

     

    However, around the beginning of July, the wind shifts to the north out of the Gulf of Mexico and with it comes the moisture. When the monsoon is on a roll, it rains almost every day for weeks at a time and we have our relief. The majestic thunderstorms charge the air with excitement. The winds bringing the change can drop the temperature by 20 degrees in a heartbeat. The rain itself is sometimes cool enough to refresh and other times warm enough to make us feel we’re in a tropical rainforest. Before the storms start, much of the wild vegetation is parched brown. Within a couple weeks, we are up to our knees in lush green growth of all kinds. Rivers and washes flow, water barrels become full and there are new stories to share all around. Our own rock landscaping is full of green. This year, I have a virtual army of zinnia “volunteers” that will bring us flowers for the summer. Alleluiah, the desert is alive! I love the summer rains.

     

     

  • THOUGHTS ON BOOK: THE MASTERY OF LOVE

     

    I just finished reading Don Miguel Ruiz’ The Mastery of Love, subtitled A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship. I would be remiss to just move on without sharing my reflections on this important book somewhere.

    I can’t tell you I agreed with everything the author had to say in his rather extreme view of the world. It is part of his philosophy that we’re all masters, but that through indoctrination as a human, we become masters of suffering through anger, jealousy, sadness and self-rejection and other negativities. They’re incorporated into our personalities to the point that we don’t even know we’re doing it. Ruiz tells us humans are living a dream of hell when it comes to relationships, then lays in some wisdom that I find to be remarkably profound. He has a way of being blunt, but sometimes you need to bring out the club to reach homo sapiens to get past all of its preconceived ideas. Accepting, for now, the premise that this is all Maya or a dreamlike illusion, we look at a bit of poetry he writes:

    “Life is nothing but a dream,                                                                                                                                                     and if we are artists,                                                                                                                                                                 then we can create our life with Love,                                                                                                                                       and our dream becomes                                                                                                                                                           a masterpiece of art.”

    Ah, the crux of the matter. This life of endless potential…a mix of constant challenges that remind us of how limited we are, learning opportunities, joy, suffering, fears, anticipation, disappointment and on and on…this life can become a masterpiece by mastering Love. Okay, now, I feel the attention deficit creeping in with some of you. Don’t be so quick to pull away. Ruiz is not one to leave us with a nice little conceptual piece of lightweight philosophy without any backing. He is a staunch realist on some level and would not be satisfied to give us empty information we can’t truly use. I happen to love that verse above and see how it can be pragmatic in an idealistic scenario. Maybe, though, I’m just a naive optimist. Let’s see what else he brings to the table.

    He points out that we can live our lives in a track of love or a track of fear. How much of your life is guided by fear rather than love? It’s rampant. Ruiz raises our awareness of this condition and shows us in one chapter what a perfect relationship looks like.

    Paraphrasing now, he says in order to truly love, we have to be able to forgive. All the blame and anger we’ve been harboring for what’s been done to us is holding our love hostage. Not only that, Ruiz states it is vital for us to forgive ourselves first. Then we can forgive everyone else. Forgiveness goes deep, too. It’s not just some surface acceptance of an apology. When it comes to ourselves, it requires healing our emotional psyche. The chapter on this definitely strikes a chord within me. He draws an analogy to how it is when we have to heal a wound or disease to our skin. The doctor may have to cut the skin to allow cleaning of the affected area, “apply medicine to it and keep the wounds clean until they heal and no longer hurt us.” He likens the scalpel to truth when it comes to opening the emotional wounds. Seeing the truth allows us to start the healing process as cutting into an infected body part enables the doctor to see why it isn’t healing. If we don’t view painful incidents truthfully, we live these incidents over and over, punishing ourselves in the process and suffering for years, possibly for the rest of our lives. The emotional poison we fail to release builds all the while. He points out that incidents of injustice are not always still happening. They probably aren’t happening right now, yet if we hold onto them and keep them mentally in the present, we suffer as though they are continually happening. “That is a choice,” says Ruiz.

    Once the wounds are opened, cleaning begins. Forgiveness is the cleaning agent to use “because you don’t want to suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you.” It helps you feel better. The next step is applying the medicine and the medicine is love–unconditional love. We love ourselves, our neighbors, our enemies. That self-love step has to happen first, though, and then the others can follow. When we are generating love, we are happy, not judging ourselves or others, not putting expectations out there and not trying to mould someone to our concepts of what they should be like.

    We are Life. We are sources of Love. Surrender to these realities and see the improvement in your relationships, starting with you.